Avoiding the friendzone!

Hello guys (and ladies if you are here), good day!

On todays topic on how we can we avoid the dreaded term of being friend zoned? Is it because you are not attractive at all? No money? No work? Cant speak well? Read on.

you’re just a friend if…

-You hear phrases like: “I can talk to you about absolutely anything“ “You‘re really a nice guy” “You‘re like a brother to me” “You‘re my best friend” and “You understand me.”

-You finally work up the courage to ask her out and she tells you: “I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship,” “I like you too much to go out with you,” “I don’t want to risk losing what we have” and so on and so forth…

-She tells you all about her problems with men.

-She asks you for advice about the men she’s attracted to.

-She tells you excitedly, “I just met this really great guy

Basically, how do men get into the friend zone? There are four main reasons

She’s just not that into you
Oh, sure, you’re funny, charming and fun to be with — but you just dont get to get her shake her socks off. Short of a new hairstyle and wardrobe (or maybe reincarnation), there’s not a lot you can do about this, so don’t kid yourself. Sometimes it’s just the way it is. If she‘s just not into you, you have a choice to make: Either stay her friend and erase any idea of it getting sexual, or move on completely.

You’re a doormat
She has bestowed you a friend status because you’re way too nice, too accommodating and too ass-kissing. She knows she can have you just by snapping her fingers. You follow her around like a moon-eyed puppy. You try to impress her. You think you can buy her attention with flowers, gifts and expensive meals. JUST WRONG.

You don’t have the goods
Unfortunately, money talks for many people. If you don’t have it (or enough of it), odds are you’ll be dumped into the friend zone. So work hard, get a raise, promoted, soon enough you’ll have more moolahs!

She’s Hurt
Based on her past experiences with her ex lovers, she’s most probably scarred and scared for getting into another relationship or she cant even establish a normal relationship with a guy. Sometimes they flirt aggressively but when he comes on her, she’ll react in horror(I THOUGHT WE ARE FRIENDS?) The only people these kind of ladies can psychologically deal with is a non”sexual” friend.

This is how YOU avoid it

Is there any way to escape the friend zone? It’s not easy, but not impossible. Here are a few tips.

Make yourself scarce/not readily available
Stop acting like her puppy and don’t be so available. Don’t get together with her at the drop of a text. Wait a day or two to return one of her phone calls. Be a challenge, not a doormat.

Start dating other women
In other words, make her jealous. If she has any sexual interest in you at all, this will drive her crazy.

Ask her for advice about the women you’re dating
Openly talk about other women. Ask her for advice. This will in fact trigger her hormones.

Tell her you want to be “just friends”
She isn’t stupid – she’s known all along that you want to jump her or in malay we call in panjat, so if you reject her sexually, it may push her to action.

Start treating her like shes your girlfriend
Ask her out on dates. Take her to romantic places. Put your arm around her.

If she responds romantically, be challenging
Keep her off balance. Be a challenge. Be unpredictable. Keep her guessing.

avoid the dead-end zone

Men and women are never going to think alike, so we have to make the best of our differences. Hopefully, some of these techniques will help you avoid stepping into the booby trap of the friend zone.

I hope you guys succeed in getting the girl you’ve had a crush on since primary school or college. You need to GAME up your GAME.  Hope this helps

Emcee Alfi Duran